See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called the children of God! And that is what we are! 1 John 3:1, Gal. 3:26, Gal. 4:6, Rom. 8:19
Doing flows naturally out of who you believe you are. So if there is things in you and coming out of you in word, action, thought, attitude then you need to rethink what you believe. If a Son and Daughter of the Lord we need to think like Jesus did. We are to imitate Him. Well you say that's impossible! Not really, Paul said to - 1 Cor. 1:11, so if the fruit of the Spirit is not coming out your mouth and your attitude towards yourself and others then you need to check what you believe about being a son or daughter of God. Yes we all mistakes, but the mistakes now should be far and few between unlike they where when you didn't know Him. What do you believe? Or do you just want to be able to react, get angry, push your way, be mean? Sorry when you become a child of God you lose that privilege. IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU ANY MORE. "You are not your own, you are bought with a price...1 Cor. 6:19-20". That's why we come to Jesus we hate the way we were and we want set free from those old ways. If you don't then you better look to see if you are a son or daughter. You had and exchange, if a son or daughter.
If people can't see or you yourself see a change when you come to God maybe you need to sit and think about it? We change from moment, day by day all the time. If you are not changing but being the same then there is a problem. Take time and take a deep look. Can people see Jesus in you, in what you say, in how you act, in your attitude. If you don't know then be bold and ask someone, they will let you know.